tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-72208721805745715532024-03-13T10:33:29.364-07:00Life As I Know ItAfter 15 years of trying to finish my undergrad, I spent the week before finals in and out of the ER. During finals I was diagnosed with Endometrial Cancer. I graduated Magna Cum Laude the next weekend from Western Michigan University. I am now blogging about my experiences of fighting cancer & living life after in hopes of being able to help others.Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.comBlogger474125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-73929419114881130482019-04-08T10:05:00.002-07:002019-04-08T10:05:45.101-07:00Feet Back Under Me: Different Doesn’t Mean Easy or LuckyFrom my own personal experience and from reading posts from many different people I am starting to see people, who have had cancer and who haven’t , almost catogorize what level of good or bad you went through because it was different. I have two experiences that show two different ways people did not think before they spoke.<br />
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1. I am fairly open about my cancer and what kind I have. Often people ask me for the kind of cancer after they find out I have had it. I was in a group of college students when this came up and I said I had Endometrial Cancer and explained it was a form of uterine cancer. One person actually told me that I was lucky it wasn’t breast cancer or something. No one in this group of people seemed to understand just how out of line that statement was. What was lucky about this? Was I lucky that I was bleeding so much that in less than a week I had 5 units of blood given to me? Was I lucky to be told that I would never be able to have my own kids? Was I lucky that I was thrown into surgical<br />
Menopause at the age of 33? Perhaps I was lucky to have had to go through 6 rounds of chemo therapy. Maybe I was lucky to have to spend a minimum of a week on my back after each treatment because I was too tired to move which was ok since moving made me want to throw up the tiny bit of food and drink I had managed to swallow. Perhaps I was lucky that I lost all of my hair? Maybe I was lucky that 5 and a half years later I still can’t drive from Virginia to Michigan because it wipes me out to the point of shaking I’m so tired and my eyes go all blurry from exhaustion? Doesn’t sound very lucky to me.<br />
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2. As mentioned above, one of the things I’m apparently “lucky” to have experienced in a cancer other than breast cancer is infertility. In a very misguided attempt to try to make me feel better about this daily struggle a complete stranger who over heard a conversation I was having with a friend on the phone felt it was her responsibility to make me feel better. She leaned over after I hung up (I was in a coffee shop) and informed me that the bright side of not being able to have kids is I can spend more time for myself and not have to constantly be thinking about someone else. Also, according to her, if I really wanted to have a kid someday I could adopt. From a complete stranger! I was in shock!! Let’s see, spend more time on me when all I have ever wanted more than anything was to be a mother. And yes, let me dip into my savings and pull out about $20 to $30 grand to start the adoption process. Because the average single woman just has that kind of money laying around. And let’s completely ignore the struggle of accepting this complete and total reversal of what you had hoped and prayed for your life to be.<br />
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Now, perhaps these people don’t hear their own words. Maybe they honestly think they are giving up happy news or sage advice. I don’t know. But I do know this kind of unthought and sometimes unsolicited advice isn’t just something cancer survivors have to deal with. Anyone who is going through something painfully difficult will find themselves the recipient of these “helpful” words. From miscarriages to chronic health conditions to loosing family members to being separated from loved ones due to military deployments or multiple work trips. I am begging everyon, no matter who you are to the person you are talking to...take two seconds and ask if these words are perhaps the best way to express yourself. Too often I have found myself staring in shock at people and unable to form words. Or sometimes just trying to smile and shrug it off because I don’t have the emotional energy to engage at that moment. It isn’t our sole responsibility to kindly and gently correct someone that their words are in fact like daggers to the heart. Let’s all be aware how our words affect others.<br />
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That all being said, I really don’t want to end this post on a negative note so I want to look at all the things I am blessed with after going through this experience.<br />
1. I am blessed to have deepened my Faith.<br />
2. I am blessed that I found a direction in life that lead me to a field of work that I love!<br />
3. I am blessed that I was able to work through some of the pain of not having children and found a love for fostering.<br />
4. I am blessed by the people I meant along my journey and that I continue to meet and be inspired by and learn from.<br />
5. I am blessed to have my family and close friends encourage me and be there for me when I’m laughing and when I’m crying.<br />
6. I am blessed that even though my energy isn’t the same, each year I am doing more and more and pushing back that wall of exhaustion.<br />
7. I am blessed that in a few minutes I’ll finish up my lunch break and dive back into my job and look forward to the many fun things I have planned to do...because I CAN!<br />
<br />Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-34386508543170071162019-04-05T21:26:00.000-07:002019-04-05T21:26:26.839-07:00Feet Back Under Me: UnexpectedToday has been a different kind of day. And not for any of the reasons I thought it would be. For a while now, I have been encouraged to consider genetic counseling and genetic testing. I really fought this for a long time. It was something that in my mind only held bad news. That something terrible was going to be found. That out of this test I would only hear devastating words. In my mind nothing good could come out of this. <br />
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It is crazy how you can build something up so much that it becomes this menacing, faceless thing that no one else seems to understand will crush you. You find yourself unable to face it and all you want to do is run away. It's like this every time genetic counseling or testing was brought up to me until one day this week...it wasn't. As the doctor talked about it I waited for the anxiety to build uncontrollably and become overwhelming. But all I could think was...my sister was right. I needed to face this. And I was finally ready to face this.<br />
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Since I was diagnosed I have had severe anxiety whenever I had to go to the doctor's office. I don't think I have ever gotten a normal blood pressure reading at any visit! My coping mechanism was to act like it was no big deal to most people, but my parents can fully attest that this is a very thin façade. However, since moving out of Michigan and getting to where I am now, I have had to learn to go to the doctor's alone. No buffer to reach out to and touch and ground myself. I had to do that job on my own. And I am pretty bad at it. At 39 I am not ashamed to say that I call my parents on a pretty regular basis and more so when I have to see a doctor. <br />
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I was at the oncologist's office for the first time in a few years this week to check up on two years of irregular cells found on my annual tests. And oddly enough, through the anxiety and fear that is a constant companion when I am at any doctor's office lately, I found myself not just acting calm...but starting to feel calm. I felt like for the first time in a long time that this part of my life was going to be ok. That I had doctors who I could trust and I knew understood what has happened and what I was going through every day since then. That the nightmare was in fact not waiting around the corner to grab me again. And when genetic counseling was gently suggested and explained, I found myself actually wanting those answers. No trumpets heralded this total Mentanoa. It was this gentle shift from <i>acting</i> like I can handle this alone to actually being able to handle this but not feeling completely alone. <br />
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And so today I met with the genetic counselor who explained the scary monster and suddenly it wasn't so scary. It was science. It was order and made sense. It was almost reassuring how the process works and what they look for and why they look for specific things. It is like making a plan and feeling like someone who knows has your back. It's everything I feel when I step into my church and come face to face with God. Its realizing that in this science and order is the same reassuring God Who is in my church, my soul and in my faith. He has always been there beside me and I have always felt Him there. But tonight, thinking back on the afternoon, I realize that He isn't just there to be that comfort...He is handing me all the strength I need to live my life and to take care of myself. To not be afraid of what I don't know. And to not live in fear of what might happen.<br />
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My dad is always telling me that life is what happens when you are busy planning. This doesn't mean not to plan but rather, live your life every day. And today that included taking a trip from the second floor of the cancer center to the first floor and breathing through a blood draw and then letting it go for four weeks. Tonight it meant watching a movie and tomorrow it means going to a beeping Easter Egg hunt. In four weeks it will mean to create a plan to make sure my doctors and I are keeping an eye on the right things, and then go home and prepare for my respite foster kiddos. And who knows what else the future holds. I know I will be afraid and anxious still sometimes but today I let go of that and it felt good. <br />
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<br />Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-54847217587690429332019-03-27T18:22:00.003-07:002019-03-27T18:32:07.899-07:00Feet Back Under Me: Thank You LordThe last two months have been something else. It almost feels like a laundry list of difficult moments! Emotions ranging from sad, to angry to astonished and confused to fear and frustration! I will admit that there have also been a fair share of good things too! I have laughed a lot, shared heartfelt conversations, done crazy and silly things and found a comfort in my faith and peacefulness in God's creation.<br />
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I feel like this is all just quite simply life. But sometimes it takes time to process it and life doesn't always give you that time. So I had to break it down. Go through it and acknowledge the not so good and the good alike.<br />
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Not so good: a violation of my privacy and trust and the struggle of deciding if I should go on sharing my story and my journey through this blog.<br />
Good: learning to be more aware of the people around me and learning prudence as well as not letting fear, that all to often present acquaintance, get the better of me.<br />
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Not so good: abnormal cells found a second year in a row and the over whelming anxiety and fear felt for almost two weeks!<br />
Good: getting the all clear from the doctor that upon further investigation there is still no evidence of disease. However, I was referred to go speak to a gyno oncologist just to be on the safe side and make sure everything that can't be seen is all good.<br />
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Not so good: still no foster child. So many people around me with new babies, pregnant, adopting. Me praying to God to be a mother.<br />
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Good: Being a foster parent means that before they come to me a child must be hurting and I do not want any child to hurt. <br />
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And then I looked only at the good.<br />
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Good: I am surrounded at work and in my personal life by kind and caring people who are all prayer warriors!<br />
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Good: I live in one of the most beautiful areas on God's earth and can easily find the beauty in God's creation that brings me peace.<br />
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Good: I have learned to turn more and more to God with my fear and sadness and troubles and find Him soothing my heart and soul.<br />
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Good: Visiting with friends and seeing the lovely creations God has made through their love in the form of smiling and beautiful babies.<br />
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Good: Exploring all over and rediscovering old haunts and creating new ones. Taking the time God has given me and filling it with good and happy memories.<br />
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Good: Doing things that make me smile like coloring my hair purple and blue!!!!<br />
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Good: Talking with my parents and siblings and sharing personal moments and happy moments.<br />
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Good: Finding new ways and continuing old ways of sharing my story in the hopes I can help as many people as possible find the good in their lives, hope and moments to smile over, even in the midst of any frightening life changes they may be going through.<br />
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In that spirit, while I will continue to write and post this blog on the support groups I am in, I have also started a private Facebook group where I can also share more through pictures, videos and hear from you and your stories. If you would like to join, it is called<b> Life After Cancer</b>. It is a closed group so you will have to request to join. In sharing my story I want to encourage others to share their stories. There are no pre-requisites to be a member. Maybe it is cancer or infertility or diabetes or the loss of a family member. We all go through different things in life that change us and will take a long time to handle and process. I know it has been over 5 years since I went through it all and I am finding I am still going through it and trying to negotiate through life. For me, sharing helps me process and I want to invite you to share too or just sit back and read and maybe I can in some small way help you or at the very least. make you smile. <br />
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Finally, I just want to say, Thank You Lord for Your support and comfort and blessings over the past few months. Thank You Lord for Your constant presence and the people You have sent into my life, for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Thank You Lord for helping me every day and Thank You Lord for Your love and strength.<br />
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<br />Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-52671968563157776802019-02-03T17:18:00.000-08:002019-02-03T17:18:09.591-08:00Feet Back Under Me: Foster Mama in Waiting...and waiting, and waiting, and waiting<div>
Patience, I think, is something we all work on every day. Some situations we can be as patient as a saint...while other things seem to test us to the breaking point. I am now in month number 6 waiting for a foster placement. I thought for sure this past week it was going to happen. Two little ones who needed a home. Two little ones who needed some extra love. </div>
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Waiting to get the final word if they would come to me I had images in my head that were quite the jumble! First I was thinking practical. I'll have to call my boss and let him know the placement finally came and I wouldn't be into work the next day. I would have to hit up Walmart in the middle of the night for some PJ's and a change of clothes in their size. Work out day care and school over the next few days. Talk about taking family leave. Then there were the random thoughts of kissing sleeping in goodbye. Well, realistically, probably kissing sleeping in consecutive hours goodbye until they were settled in. Then the thoughts that made me smile. Those small moments when you see your kiddo sleeping restfully. That moment when they finally take your hand. Or when they turn to you for help on even a little thing like zipping up their coat. I know in fostering these are milestones because they show the tiniest bit of trust just MIGHT be forming. All of this swirling in my head in no particular order. And then the word finally comes. They aren't coming to me. They find a home that has more beds than I do and they don't have to split up the siblings. That is a good and wonderful reason for them to not come to me and I am happy for them. Even thought it feels to them that their world is falling apart around them and they are scared and sad and angry. I do know that at least they are together.</div>
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Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-84925896985699398002018-11-10T18:41:00.001-08:002018-11-10T18:43:01.850-08:00Feet Back Under Me: Even More Changes 5 Years Out! Ok, so it has been quite a while since I have written something. Last month I hit five years since my last chemo. The big date that is made such a big deal of. I’ll admit I had mixed emotions that day. It was overwhelming and at the same time I didn’t want it to be. I wanted it to be like every other day. But it wasn’t. It brought a lot of memories back. Both good and bad. A couple times I could almost feel myself sitting in that lazy boy chemo chair. My hand kept going to where my port use to be all day and I found myself touching my hand to the top of my head like I use to do constantly when I was bald! I also spent time looking around me. I saw my coworkers I have been with the past year. I spent time outside looking at my mountains and feeling happy to be back home in Virginia after so many years. I walked into my townhouse and felt comfortable and homey. Every emotion was intense and sometimes raw. And I still found myself laughing between the sobbing! Yes, sobbing. I called my mom and just let loose in probably an incoherent way everything I was feeling! And she made sense out of it for me. And then reminded me where I was in life.<br />
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She reminded me that last spring and this summer I took Foster Parent classes and was certified to foster in August. Taking a big step to being a mom finally. She reminded me that I had learned so much about myself with these classes. That I had grown a lot in this past year of being home in Vieginia again. I let the happiness of these things wash over me. </div>
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I talked to the man I love and who loves me and he reminded me that I don’t have to live in those terrifying and heart breaking memories. They will always be there but I can choose to not let them over whelm me. That I can look at all the wonderful things in my life. And there are a lot of them. </div>
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So, as always, I gave myself another goal. Another step into living my life. I’ve been wanting to buy my own house for a long time. Long before I ever got sick. And while I love my job, I won’t get to buying a house on my salary alone. So I took the plunge. I started my own business with Thirty-One! That is going to get me to my house. My next goal. And if you want to help, please do!! Go to my Facebook group page Cat’s Totes and More and add yourself and shop and host a party!! So many great hostess perks! And let’s face it, Thirty-One has CUTE stuff!! Lol! Let’s support each other in moving forward!! If any of you do direct sales, I will support you too! Lord knows I don’t have the physical energy anymore in my life to be working two on-site jobs! I’m thanking God for the energy to work my full time job! Thirty-One allows me to work largely from my phone!! Lol!</div>
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Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-36871075042011334192018-04-24T20:35:00.000-07:002018-04-24T20:35:34.975-07:00Feet Back Under Me: Climbing MountainsI don't know about you guys but there were many times going through treatment when I would think about the things I wanted to do again. I made lists, talked to my parents, talked to myself or just dreamed of the things I wanted to do again. Just over a week ago I finally got a chance to do one of those things. I climbed a mountain in my beautiful Blue Ridge mountains!!<br />
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I had eyed the trail once before on a randomly less chilly day in March but was told by hikers coming down that the snow up there had become a sheet of ice! I put it off until just over a week ago! I really didn't know what to expect as it was a new trail to me. Online reviews said it was strenuous but beginner. May I say right now, those two words don't belong together nor is this trail close to beginner once you get past the first half!!<br />
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I am not in shape. While my job keeps me walking I had the conversation with a co-worker about how we don't get an actual work out in very much. It is a lot of walking, stopping, walking, stopping, standing and observing and explaining. So I must stress just how out of shape I am. I was one of those people who did loose weight in chemo but it came back with a vengeance when I was done. At any rate, I knew I was going to have a difficult time.<br />
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My plan was to simply take it one step at a time. So I took two puffs on my inhaler, shouldered my back pack with power aid and water on my back, and started up. I am not kidding when I say I didn't make it 1/10th of a mile before stopping and feeling like I was sucking oxygen for my life! The trail was wide but definitely going UP! Remember how I said "one step at a time"? In my mind that was just in case and I was going to fly up this mountain because I was determined and I had survived chemo so there was no way this mountain could conquer me!! Besides, there were literally dozens of people walking up and down around me. I tried to hide the fact I was winded at the beginning and sucking air in. I casually looked around on the first half dozen stops like I was taking in the many trees surrounding me. Then when I was told I was only a 3rd of the way up after what felt like forever I seriously considered turning around. I debated it in my head. Then I took another step forward, then a second and a third and stopped on the fifth. I kept this up until I had decided that this mountain wasn't going turn me back. Then I came to the stairs.<br />
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This flight of wooden stairs...I couldn't believe it! They were steeper than the gravel path. But I figured at least they were wide. I only stopped a couple times on them. Surely I had to be close to the top! Oh no! This old, craggy mountain simply laughed at me. The first half was the easy half. Now I had to earn it. The incline increased as did the rocks, boulders and trees I had to climb up and over. My vision was not happy with me as all shades of browns blended together and my ability to tell them apart got worse and worse. On one of my many, many, many (you get the picture) stops I met a lady who kindly encouraged me to keep going. That I could make it. I don't know what pushed me to say this but gulped air, laughed and said that I wasn't going to stop because I had told myself during chemo that I was going to climb a mountain again. That I was going to do this! The woman smiled and said she would see me at the top! I let her (and several more people) pass by before I took another swig of water and pushed on. Up and over, up and over, taking more puffs on the inhaler and focusing on only one step at a time, one boulder at a time. Trying to follow a path that was only discernible by the blue stripes painted on trees and rocks or following other hikers as they picked out a way to go.<br />
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And then, after what felt like the whole day but was in fact maybe an hour, things flattened out and I literally stumbled the last bit up to the giant rocks that jutted out from the top of the mountain. The rocks were scattered with people resting and taking in the view. I saw the lady who had told me she would see me at the top and she came over to me with a big smile and a wave and told me to sit down and rest for a minute and then she would have her daughter take a picture of me on the rocks! As I sat and guzzled about half my power aid in one go, the lady's daughter scouted a seat for me up on the rocks and saved it until I was ready to climb up to it. Then, not to get too corny, pictures of victory were taken!<br />
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I sat up there for probably close to an hour, looking out over the valley from the rocks and just letting the wind clear my mind and cool me down. I let it push all the thoughts from my head and just enjoyed a quietness and peacefulness I hadn't felt in a long time. There is something about the Blue Ridge that is good for my soul. And sitting on top of it that day seemed to give me an emotional and mental cleansing! I believe strongly in a Good God and that He uses His creation to help us heal and be at peace. Looking at that beauty spread out below me and as far as I could see I felt a calm wash over me. <br />
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I looked down and saw what I had come up in one glance and I thought of how many times I wanted to turn back. That I had wanted to turn back after just a few steps. I was so glad I didn't because it showed me what I had accomplished in so many, many ways.<br />
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I have been told for over four years now that the decisions I made with my surgery and chemo were brave and I was a strong person to make them. I never felt that way. I felt that it was simply something I had to do. The decision was practically made for me. The roller coaster was pulling away and I was strapped down. I had to ride it. At least that is how I felt. Then I looked back at how quickly that hike pulled me down. How quickly I felt tired and wanted to stop. How I could literally only look at one foot at a time to move forward, and I realized I could do this mountain because I had already climbed it. It wasn't a roller coaster I was strapped to with surgery and chemo. It was a mountain I had to climb. Then I realized I had been climbing mountains my whole life. That was how I was able to climb the cancer mountain and that was how I was able to climb this mountain.<br />
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When I was born I started climbing. Being blind as a child was just life to me. But I learned from day one to climb, to keep moving. Onwards and upwards was the only way I knew to go. And I can thank my parents for that. I never let my vision stand in my way. It got in the way a lot, but I didn't let it stay there for long. I made adaptations and just worked with what I had. I think that is how I first became stubborn and determined that things would just work out, one way or another. I just had to keep trying. Even with the giant improvement in my vision from then to now, I still have to keep trying and making those adaptations and not let it get in my way.<br />
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When my older brother was first diagnosed with cancer when I was 14 and I watched him go through it and helped take care of my little brothers...that mountain I thought was pretty big. Then when he was diagnosed a second time. And finally a third time. I felt like I was watching him climb Everest and all I could do was stand at base camp and watch. And then May 10, 2008 he reached the summit. Even as I write this I can't stop crying. I don't think anything I have gone through or will go through will equal that emotional mountain I will forever be climbing.<br />
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I started back up another mountain back in 2011 and climbed my way to the top of that college mountain, determined that after 15 years I would walk across that stage and finally get my diploma. As I reached the top, I saw my own Everest waiting for me. I was diagnosed, as many of my friends know, in 2013...during my last finals week. But I rolled up to that stage in a wheel chair and with sheer adrenaline, I walked across that stage and got my diploma! Then I immediately started that climb of surgery and chemo. There was no summiting Everest for me. I guess the Good Lord has other plans for now:).<br />
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Looking at that climb up the Blue Ridge last week, for me it was putting everything I went through from climbing my Everest into a physical climb over those rocks. One step at a time. That is how I made it through the diagnoses, surgery, chemo and recovery. One step at a time, holding onto the rocks and trees to balance myself. I actually fell down twice coming back down. And I am pretty sure I did a little damage to the back of my left ankle. Each time, there was someone reaching a hand towards me right away to help me up. And then I made it back down to the bottom. My second fall was on the last stretch of the trail, close to the bottom. I was worried for a minute that I had hurt my ankle to the point of not safely being able to walk. Fortunately it wasn't that bad and one last rest was all I needed. I didn't even take a moment at the bottom of the trail to look back. I dragged myself to my car and finished off my water. I sat in my car and repeated to myself, "I did it! I did it!" I don't think I was completely talking about that day's hike. And something tells me I'll be saying that phrase a lot in my life.<br />
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This hike was a perfect view for me of how we go through difficulties and how we go through life. Taking one step at a time and when we fall, reaching out to those around us to help pull us back up and get back on the trail. I don't know that I will ever stop having to climb mountains but I do know now that no matter how hard, painful and cry worthy the mountain is, all I have to do is reach out for my rocks and reach out for someone's hand. Those are my parents, my friends, complete strangers and in all of them, my God.<br />
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1st Picture: The beginning of the hike, wide, gravel path.<br />
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2nd Picture: The stairs!<br />
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3rd Picture: Rocks on the path with the top in the background.<br />
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4th picture: The rocks are getting bigger. I stopped taking pictures after this point!<br />
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5th picture: Me at the top laughing and sitting on the rock! A splendid view if the valley behind me.</div>
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6th picture:Looking between two of the giant rock outcroppings over the valley.<br />
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7th picture: Ok, I celebrated more than a little! Me with both arms up in the air showing the valley and part of the mountain behind me.<br />
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8th Picture: A panorama of the rocks looking out over the valley.<br />
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9th picture: Obligatory selfie with the edge of the rocks and valley behind me. Blue sky with some white clouds in all pictures.<br />
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It is interesting though to look at what I thought would happen vs reality.<br />
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Teenager Plan: Be an actress.<br />
Reality: Tried out for a play in college and couldn't stop laughing through the whole tryout!! I was horrible!! But I found out in college that I had a talent for working back stage as stage manager!<br />
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Teenager Plan: Be an author.<br />
Reality: I still love to write and have so many stories I have started but haven't finished. I feel like this is still a plan that could happen. One of these days I will get the stories inside of me into books! And maybe turn one of my blog series into a book too :). Not giving up on this one teenage me!<br />
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Teenager Plan: Get married young and have a big family.<br />
Reality: 38 years old and not married. Hurting still from a break up that I knew I had to do for me. Still in love with that man. As for a big family, well, adopting and fostering is my hope for the future. Started to seriously look into both options as of a couple months ago. Easier to write than to do but a family, and maybe even a big family, I think is still in the cards for me. As for marriage, I suppose I have a lot of work to do on myself before that can happen :).<br />
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Teenager Plan: Be a singer.<br />
Reality: On occasion I can hit some pretty high and on key notes. But a Grammy is not in my future! Lol!<br />
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Teenager Plan: Be a teacher:<br />
Reality: I was actually a teacher for one year! I was hired to teach Creative Writing and ended up also teaching religion, spelling, and english. I was planning to go back into teaching once I finished my undergrad degree in English Literature. I even had a very promising interview process happening for a position as an English Teacher when I was diagnosed with cancer. I had to pull myself out of the process (and I believe I had made it to the final round) when I had to go through chemo.<br />
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Teenager Plan: Own a house in the country by the time I was 25.<br />
Reality: 38 and finally feeling like I can look for a house comfortably and on my own time schedule instead of just window shopping or desperately trying to find something to live in bigger than a studio apartment (buying would have been cheaper living when I was in Florida). <br />
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So many ideas went through my mind as a teenager as to where I would be when I was older. For some reason the magic age for me was 25. I felt like I would have my whole life figured out by then! I would have to say that only in the last four years (since having cancer) have I stopped putting age limits on goals. It is funny what seems old and established when you are in high school. Very little turned out how I thought it would. But that's ok. So much more happened that was good that I never even imagined as a teenager. And maybe as a teenager I would have said to my older self "Are you nuts!?" A sentence I am sure my parents, family and friends stopped themselves from uttering...most of the time :). <br />
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So maybe my life didn't turn out as I planned. Maybe the rest will be different than I think even now. All I know is I want to live it...whatever may come. Create my adventures, open my life up to God's Will. Do what I can for others and smile every day, even those times when my heart is hurting. Because even though my teenage plans may not have come about as I had hoped, a pretty full life of 38 years is behind me to think back on and remember. My present and future life, for however long God wants me here, is wide open in front of me for all the experiences, laughter, tears and surprises the Good Lord has in store for me!Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-16064210788741019892018-03-24T19:23:00.000-07:002018-03-24T19:28:49.183-07:00Feet Back Under Me: I Found it!!When I was in 8th grade a lot was happening. My older brother Peter was diagnosed with cancer for the first time and I had started homeschooling after begging my mom for years (kids can be cruel with teasing and I got it daily in school). One other thing happened that was so small in comparison but still is a part of my life today. My mom was given a flute and some beginner instruction books. I asked her if I could try playing it and she told me I could. Over the next year I slowly taught myself the basic fingering and what fingering was what note. I started playing some simple music by ear and would write the letters of the notes above them in the melody of other songs. I was never great and probably never got beyond beginner status but I loved it!!!<br />
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Playing the flute was a peaceful thing for me. I wouldn’t call it an escape but more of a release. It was calming for me when I had no control over anything. I had to grow up fast at 14 because of my brother’s illness. And I was far from perfect at my new responsibilities. But whenever I picked up that flute I didn’t care. And that flute has stayed with me ever since.<br />
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I have Moved a lot over the past couple of years and when I finished grad school the flute got packed in a box and put into storage. Tonight as I was cleaning out some boxes, desperately trying to make my bedroom feel more comfortable and homey, I found my flute! It is in sad need of cleaning and probably new stops but I played it for a few minutes and was reminded of how much I loved playing and how soothing the sound was to me. I think I needed to find it tonight so that I could once more have that release and calm that always came with playing my flute.<br />
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So thanks mom! I feel like I absconded with your flute long ago and I am grateful you let me! Love you!<br />
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Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-37686030274536779692018-03-23T19:29:00.000-07:002018-03-23T19:44:21.490-07:00Feet Back Under Me: Scary and Sad MomentsIt has been a while since I have written. Some of that time has just simply been filled with every day life. But some of that time was also filled with a terrifying doctor's visit and personal sadness. I needed some time to process and I am certainly not done processing and dealing with it all but I am to the point where I think writing will help me.<br />
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A week ago I had a follow up visit with my doctor due to an abnormal pap. My first one since cancer by the way. What I was told over the phone by a nurse or someone making the appointment was that I had one thing (not cancer) and that freaked me out. I won't go into details. Suffice to say it gave me more than a few restless nights and I did everything I could to not think about it because it seemed impossible. Turns out I was right. It was impossible. I was given the wrong information over the phone. The doctor was in fact having me come in because the abnormal cells that were found were low grade cells. Meaning if they found more that day during the closer exam they would be considered high grade cells and that would have been a one way ticket to an oncologist. <br />
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When this was explained to me as I sat on the exam table I will be honest...I started crying and then started to try to stop myself from crying which resulted in painful hiccups and sounding like a lunatic trying to ask questions and not being able to think or see strait. I freely admit, at 38, I wanted my mom! The doctor was very kind and understanding and consoling. She told me to let her do the exam and after that there would be a clearer picture and more information. Probably the longest five minutes I have experienced in a long time. A million things flew through my brain. A thousand possibilities and outcomes crowded the space and it felt like, for those five minutes, my world was crashing down around my head again. Praise God she did not find anymore abnormal cells in the exam! All clear for one more year! It took most of the rest of the day to bring my blood pressure down but I was relieved and also a little numb as well as terrified. But as I said I have been processing that experience and working through it.<br />
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Another thing that happened last week was a realization that had been growing inside me that you can love somebody with your whole heart and want them to be the one and still realize that as much as you want that, you see there are just too many fundamental differences between you. At which point, continuing on would not have been fair. I know that for me it was the right choice but it was certainly not an easy one. And he is in my prayers every day.<br />
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So last week was a one, two punch. But I have been praying a lot more and entrusting everything into God's hands as well as leaning on two good friends. It is all hard to articulate. It is this painful feeling of missing someone I loved but have to let go to be fair to them and me, as well as trying to not let those terrifying memories of cancer overwhelm. It's about remembering that I am ok and there were no cancer cells. I think it is also about praying and focusing on the future and deciding to keep moving and not let my feet be knocked out from under me again. I don't know where my personal path will lead to right now but I am holding on pretty tight to Jesus at the moment. So I am asking for some prayers please and assuring you all of my own prayers!Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-1220725746206926702018-02-19T17:41:00.000-08:002018-02-19T17:41:16.827-08:00Feet Back Under Me: Processing Doctor's Appointment.First and foremost I have to make sure I say that my most recent doctors appointment was routine and so far uneventful as for tests. The normal yearly tests were run and are being sent off for results. No concerns. What I had to spend a few days processing before writing was a long conversation my new doctor and I had concerning genetic testing. <br />
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I learned when I was starting chemo that I was genetically predisposed to the type of cancer I had, Endometrial Cancer, as well as re-occurances. I remember a doctor asking if I had been tested for the BRCA gene. I had not and at the time to even think of it was beyond overwhelming. I didn't think about it since because none of my other doctors have brought it up. One said they wanted me to get a base line mammogram because my grandmother had breast cancer and cancer in general seems to run in my family. I was not able to get one because I was told by every place I went to that I was too young. So when I hit 40 in less than two years, I will be in line for one. At any rate, my doctor last wanted to talk about the BRCA gene. I said I hadn't been tested and she seemed worried by this given my history and my family history. She is looking into seeing if my insurance will cover it because of some other family history. I know it is not a cheap test and if my insurance can't cover it then I guess I won't be getting the test.<br />
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What was hard to process for me was that this doctor seemed very concerned that I did not know if I had the gene. And this forced me to think about what might come up if I am tested and found that I have that gene. How would I handle it? Do I even want to know if I have it? Is there anything I can even do about it? I managed to work myself into a stressful spot that day. And then, I took a deep breath. Something I have to work on with myself is how much stress I allow in my life and how much I let it feed on my fears and worries. And I can't let this feed.<br />
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There are no signs to cause concern. And if I can't afford the test then I just stay vigilant with my breast exams and make an appointment for November 21, 2019 to have a mammogram. And I set it aside and not let it stop me from living my life. But it did make me hesitate in writing for a few days as I wanted to make sure I didn't spill out that fear and stress but rather looked at it in a way that would help me. <br />
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I have some big things I am looking into that I will share with you all soon. Big life changes of the happiest kind! So, I am putting my stress and fear of this BRCA gene into God's hands right now, since there isn't much I can do about it at the moment. I really believe He has had a plan for me all along. He has been watching over me and filing me with strength and grace when I need it and He will keep doing this.Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-58311379486237628262018-02-13T18:45:00.000-08:002018-04-05T20:05:28.411-07:00Feet Back Under Me: Sewing for People I Love!I love to sew! Not so much clothes. For some reason clothing patterns and I have an antagonistic relationship! However, sewing blankets and tote bags and aprons...pretty much those crafty items, is therapeutic for me and a funnel for my stress! When I sewed 30 some mini totes for gift bags for a former co-worker's surprise baby shower, my supervisor at the time felt compelled to ask me just how stressed out I was! Well, 30 mini tote bags in one week kind of stressed!<br />
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I haven't gone on a sewing bender in a while now! Lol! I do have a blanket started and two baby blankets planned to put together soon for friends. Tonight I was looking at my tubs (yes tubs!) of fabric and finished crafts and wondered when I will be able to make blankets for my own kids.<br />
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A couple years before I was diagnosed I was sitting at my desk working on homework for an undergrad class and my mind seriously started to wander. I couldn't tell you what the lead up to this decision was but I decided then and there that once I was secure and stable, I was going to adopt wether I was married or not. I always wanted children and I was tired of waiting. I felt completely at peace with this decision and I wonder sometimes if it wasn't the Good Lord putting that into my heart and mind because He knew what was coming.<br />
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I am not saying that the inability to carry my own baby for 9 months under my heart doesn't tear that very heart out of my chest. It does every time I think about it. But then I remember that I had made the decision to adopt two years before this all happened. So while I sew these blankets and little gifts for the people in my life that I love...I can't wait until someday I am sewing them for my little children that I opened my heart to that day I made the decision to adopt. I have faith that God will send them to me and send me to them. And when that happens, I will have plenty of blankets made by my hand to wrap them in and hold them close.Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-14974191606029136012018-02-12T20:04:00.000-08:002018-02-12T20:04:06.694-08:00Feet Back Under Me: Why Am I Still Counting??For a year I wrote a blog entitled 365 Things To Smile About during a particularly difficult time a couple years ago. It made sense to count as I wanted to post every day something that made me smile and pulled me out of my worries, frustrations and stress. Before that I would have countdowns on calendars until I went on trips or countdowns to finish chemo. It helped me get to a destination. A concrete place in time. <br />
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Tonight I was thinking about what I was going to write and I actually felt stressed out! Lol! Which blew my mind as this blog is supposed to be a way for me to relax and an outlet. It isn't a count down for anything. Then I realized that right now, there is no more need for a count down to a better time in my life. It's just life. Sure, I am probably going to continue to set myself goals to meet because I always want to be doing more in my life. But not frantic goals and not anything that requires a countdown. <br />
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Its real day to day life now. And I will be honest...that feels a little scary. I know that sounds odd but its true. I have been going at such a pace since I was diagnosed. I felt the only way I could get through things was in part through counting the days. Putting another day BEHIND me. Now, it's looking forward to the next day with a positive outlook. Yes, I am going to have those scary doctors appointments still. In fact, I have one this week. But it isn't as scary now. My imagination of course takes flight whenever I have to see a doctor. I think we all have that experience. But that is a different kind of scary. <br />
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The scariness of day to day life with no need to count the days and put them behind me is because I dare to have real, honest hope again that I won't have to go back to putting days behind me. I don't know how to explain it honestly other than I feel like if I can stop counting things I can start really living in the present with an optimistic eye to the future. The fear was always getting a career or relationship and then having to leave them all. Except, that isn't a part of my every day life anymore. So I am going to stop counting things unless it is an amazing countdown! Like a countdown to adopting or a countdown to getting married. Neither of which is on the horizon right now but...you never know!<br />
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So I am altering a little of this blog to stop counting the days and just living the days and writing my thoughts and experiences. I feel like theses blog series kind of change with me. Maybe some day I can look back and see a good progression and hopefully a good story too!Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-56368200638508689112018-02-11T19:02:00.000-08:002018-02-11T19:02:28.988-08:00Feet Back Under Me Days 5 & 6: Desire, Adrenaline & Acceptance.I feel like I often find myself thinking and saying the words "I use to..." and then insert activity afterwards. One of those activities that has become frustrating when I want to take a long trip (or sometimes a short one!) is driving. I have to back up and explain something first about my relationship with driving.<br />
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I was born with an eye condition called Ocular Albanisim. Basically it is a mutated gene (hello X Men! Just without the cool powers!) that affects my ability to create melanin and therefor stops my body from producing pigment. Hence the pale skin that burns easily, the blue eyes that are hurt by bright light and the blonde hair that chemo gave a little more dash of red to. It affects my eyes through nystagmus, stigmatism and reduced visual acuity. My parents were told when I was a baby that I would be lucky to tell day from night. Well, apparently God had other plans. While acuity can improve in kids with albanisim up to about age 7 or 8, mine continued to improve into my teen years. It fluctuates a line now and then depending on if I am in school or not and the amount of eye strain I have but with correction, it improved enough for me to be able to safely drive.<br />
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I will admit it took me a long time to trust myself since most of my life it was made painfully obvious to me that I didn't have the same vision as everyone around me. My parents gave me everything I needed to succeed and always encouraged me to keep reaching and not let my vision be a reason to give up. After a demoralizing experience at 16 with a bit of a jerk driving instructor who didn't like home schoolers or people with disabilities (I struck out twice!), I eventually got my license in my early twenties. And my first car about a year later. It took time but eventually I found myself driving back and forth from Virginia to Michigan. I would hit the road in the evening and drive through the night along the turnpikes when the traffic was light. That was about an 11 hour drive for me since I didn't have a lead foot and stopped for breaks. But I did it without blinking.<br />
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After treatment I slowly started driving again and it took a while to build up my stamina. Desire and adrenaline were two main things that got me places and through events for about a year or two after I finished chemo. It still does today. I guess the frustrating thing is even today, I have a max limit of about 3 hours driving time before my body and my eyes become too tired and I have to pull over for several hours of real rest. And that drives me crazy! <br />
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I don't like limitations on myself. My parents raised me to be independent and to find ways around what most people in this world would call limits. And I always found ways. And I suppose with driving a great deal of what keeps me going is desire to reach my destination and the adrenaline of the excitement of what is taking me to that destination. But there is a third ingredient; acceptance. And this is truly the hardest to put into the mix. I have built up the stamina in my body to do my job which requires a great deal of driving but never more than an hour and a half or two hours tops one way. Then I am out of the car and working with my clients and just pumped over the progress we make that the drive to the next client or back to the office isn't hard. The difficult part where I have to stir in acceptance is when I make weekend or vacation plans. A work week takes a toll on me now and come the weekend, I want to relax and have fun! Which generally requires driving. This is when desire and adrenaline have to be tempered by acceptance that maybe, just maybe, now and then I have to take a weekend off. Or plan that weekend around the stamina my body has after a long week. <br />
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It 's one of those affects of everything I have gone through that will never be back to how it was before but I know I am not alone in those things in life. It's frustrating that something cases my eyes and body to become tired so quickly in comparison to before. Its frustrating that my brain won't recall words when I need it too more often than someone my age should be dealing with. The short term memory moments are a treat too! And lord help me, the hot flashes, cold flashes! I am just grateful that the flash backs are not as often or as intense all the time.<br />
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But then I wake up to my alarm, head to work, drive to my first client of the day and look at all the beauty around me. My three ingredients to deal with the after affects of chemo start to blend together; Desire to be at the work I do, adrenaline from helping my clients move forward and succeed and the acceptance that it's ok that my life isn't the same. It's my life and I am blessed to have such a good life. <br />
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Desire, adrenaline and acceptance...the often difficult but effective recipe I have cooked up over the past four years. Give it a try and let me know what you think! :)Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-56136867325150896452018-02-09T17:29:00.000-08:002018-02-09T17:29:11.654-08:00Feet Back Under Me Day 4: Tasting New Food!How many of you fought constantly changing taste buds? How many still do? One of my frustrations are my taste buds! What tasted good one day doesn’t the next. I have even gone from hating yogurt most of my life to loving it for a couple years and then from one bite to the next, I don’t like it again!! Go figure!<div>
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One of the things I use to love doing is trying new foods from different countries. Recently I had Korean food at a friends wedding and loved it!! Then tonight I saw a place called Cafe Rustico and decided I would try Russian food for the first time!! I was not dosappointed! Lol! I can’t remember the name of what I had but it was three giant meatballs made of pork and beef in a cream sauce with a special hard and soft noodles around it! Very, very good!!! Thank you taste buds for behaving tonight! Hoping more delicious, new food is around the corner! What are some of your favorite ethnic foods?!</div>
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Tonight I had to swing downtown after work and worked briefly on finding an address. I couldn't help but laugh that the address was a half a block search from where I parked on a cross street. And as I found the address I was looking for I discovered my little town has a beautiful Jewish temple tucked into its streets. I feel like I never know what I will find next! As I wound my way through the narrow streets I realized that after only three and a half months, I am using my GPS less and less and almost never down town. <br />
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I love that I can walk from my church to the Amtrak station on the other side of down town in about five minutes or so, depending if I take the detour to get a coffee or not. I don't really know people outside of work in this town yet but when I previously spent a half an hour walking in and out of shops on the main street, I was greeted with smiles and kindness and many welcomes when I said I had recently moved to town! I want to get involved with my community here and get to know people and be able to wave at people I see on the street and help out around town. Corny, yes, but I haven't felt such a welcome and generous spirit in a community in a long time. Cheers to small towns! Can't wait to get to know it better!<br />
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I wanted to do everything I use to do. But for some reason there was a block. I would sit on my bed when I was living in Florida telling myself that I was an hour away from the Atlantic Ocean and I needed to just book a hotel room and walk on the beach and explore the shops around there. That I was only an hour or so from NASA and my love of all things space related was yelling at me to spend the $50 and go on a tour. But I literally couldn't get myself to move! Towards the end of my time down there I was finally able to admit that it was probably due to almost crippling depression. I think the only thing that got me out of bed in the morning to go to work was because my love and excitement for the work I do was stronger than the depression. Then the weekend would hit and often I would not get out of bed. I tried to sound happy or talk about all these plans I had to explore the Sunshine State over the phone to friends and family. And then I would hang up and roll over, saying that I would get up in a few minutes and do more than wander around the tiny 400 square feet I lived in. That wasn't me. I don't recognize that person.<br />
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Since coming up here I have made plans and hung out with friends and my hike on the mountain pass was my first step back to doing those things I use to do all the time. It opened something inside me again. Then yesterday I saw someone who I met when I did my internship. She became a friend on my first day back then when she saw my port scar (which was pretty fresh from the port removal only a couple months before) and smiled so brightly and said "You had a port!" and then gave me a big hug! She was a survivor too and that was it, we were friends! We had talked about going hiking when I moved up here last fall and I was still breaking out of the bad habit of saying I was going to do something and then rolling over, physically and metaphorically. Yesterday I told her about my small hike on the pass. We decided that come March we were going to do some marching on a hike! And I know it is going to happen because that something that got closed off inside of me and ignored is opening again and I really and truly want to explore again and see what new places and things I can find! Don't just make plans...make plans and then make them happen! Here is to a hike with my friend next month and many, many more adventures with my friends and family or even just myself!<br />
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Here is a challenge to my fellow fighters and survivors and anyone else who wants to participate. Big, small or in between, have an adventure and do something new and let me know what you do! comment on the blog or post where you read this and challenge others as well. Go to the movies, take a hike, explore a new town, start learning a language, take pictures of your life and make a book...anything! Maybe if we share those plans with each other we can encourage each other to not roll over in bed and put it off. We can encourage each other to keep walking (not running!) forward and living life! Then maybe I can put all the adventures and plans into future blogs and share them around!! On your mark, get set, GO!Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-36292089240495874892018-02-06T20:00:00.002-08:002018-02-06T20:06:01.033-08:00Feet Back Under Me. Day 1: I Think I Can Stop RunningIn looking back over the many blog posts I have written, and the truncated blog series I entitled "My New Normal" I saw something. I saw myself running away from cancer. And honestly, who wouldn't? I don't think I fully realized how full tilt I was running until a little bit ago. A few things just clicked. <br />
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I recently moved back home to Virginia from spending just over a year working in Florida. I started a new job in the same field in a small town tucked away in the Blue Ridge. I have been here for almost four months now. Almost immediately after moving here, I felt this giant weight lift off my shoulders. I felt like I was finally standing strait again. For the first time in over a year I had all my belongings out of storage and around me. I have a 2 bedroom townhouse where I feel like I can relax when I get home. I actually think of it as home without flinching. I feel like I can breath again. I never fully realized or acknowledged just how suffocated and depressed I have felt over the past five years. The first year fighting the cancer and then four years of running full tilt away from everything that could pull me backwards into that miserable, terrifying time in my life. I decided I was going full steam ahead and nothing was going to get in my way. I ran so fast and so hard, always moving the goal post as soon as I caught up with it.<br />
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One of the things that is helping me stop running was first and foremost, my realization that I was still running...even after finally getting home. I found myself talking to my parents as I was skimming through the requirements to take the LSAT and looking into a local university's law school! I had a logical reason for looking into this but after hanging up the phone from talking to my mom and dad I sat there looking at the webpage describing LSAT study groups in the area and wondered what on earth I was pushing myself so hard for again! And then it started clicking with a comment my mom had made not too long before.<br />
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Something my friends and family have agreed on is just how happy I finally sound since moving back to Virginia. My mom told me that it sounded like I finally had my feet back under me for the first time since before I was sick. That I was finally where I wanted to be with my whole heart and doing what I love doing every day. And thus my most recent corny blog title was born! And I started putting things together. That I had been running for so long from what happened to me that I instinctively grabbed on to things that would keep that break neck momentum going, like taking the LSATs!<br />
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It finally all clicked into place the other week when I went on a hike around the top of a pass. There was an opening at the top that looked out over several ridges of mountains tinted in the many hues of blues and grays that color the Blue Ridge and give it it's name. I stood there, just letting the gentle, quiet sounds of the wind in the pine trees and the breathtaking view just wash over me. And in that quiet, peaceful moment, I realized I didn't have to run anymore. That I had beat my cancer over four years ago now and couldn't spend my whole life running away from it.<br />
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I have told myself countless times that I just wanted to live my life full and happy. And I know I had those moments over the past years. But always, always was this urgency inside me to keep moving forward! To keep pushing myself! To not slow down or that terrifying beast that I KO'd was going to get up off the matt and come after me again. I think that fear is always going to be in the back of my mind. But that doesn't mean I have to keep running...it means I should slow down and keep on living. Stop planning every small move and thinking I can't move forward unless things go a certain way. <br />
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And so, I am going to try very hard to make myself slow down. To keep my feet under me and walk through my life, however long it is, and make sure that I always find things to smile about and do what I can to help others and help myself.<br />
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So, I thought I would go back to my first love again, writing. Each day talk about the things I am doing to live my life and move through the world and be happy. Look back and see how I can draw lessons to help me stay walking instead of sprinting. Maybe find a way to deal with everything that was a consequence of the cancer and not let it overwhelm me so much. I don't know. I feel like this series will evolve on it's own but the title will be a daily reminder to me for the next year that I am ok and don't need to run anymore. And hopefully, now that I have stopped running, I will have more and more of those times like at the top of the mountain pass where I let that peace and happiness just be a part of me. Instead of pushing and pushing myself towards one goal and another and another without looking over my shoulder, I will try to just let life happen, and enjoy what comes along the way this year. Care to join me?<br />
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Tonight I finally sat down and forced myself to get online and start looking into my options down here. I will freely admit that I called my mom to help get me jump started into doing this. And I also admit that I was fighting a loosing battle to keep back the tears and anxiety and overwhelming fear that started to fight for top billing inside me!<br />
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As I started scrolling through the doctor's names on the screen, trying to decide which direction to go since I couldn't find the one doctor that had been recommended by a nurse down here. Finally I just went to the website for the Florida Cancer center here in Orlando and sent a request for contact form in. And I was shaking pretty hard as I did it too.<br />
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Three years later and just the thought of starting this process is overwhelming. I can feel every mile between me and the people I love and wish were here with me. Even my brothers who are only a couple hours away. Because this is the first time I have had to tackle this alone. No one to turn to and hug after I hit send. No one I can just sit next to and feel them next to me and just let it all sink in that I can't pretend it isn't still happening anymore.<br />
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I just have to vent for a second and say...THIS ISN'T FAIR! THIS COMPLETELY SUCKS! I shouldn't have to be worrying about this. I shouldn't have to be scared or anxious. It's times like this where I feel overwhelmingly angry at everything I have to do and everything I have lost! Of all the children I'll never get to have because of this stupid, horrible thing. And it's just not fair! <br />
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I know I try to be upbeat and positive in these blog posts but for right now, for this post, I'm just angry and hurt and anxious and scared. I know the chances of getting a bad result when I finally have all my tests is a low percentage. But so were the odds of me having this cancer in the first place and then having it move to another organ. I know people want to hold me up and say all the words that are supposed to make a person feel better. But sometimes those words can't make it through.<br />
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And now I am going to take a deep breath and wipe my face dry and curl up in bed with Netflix and remember that tomorrow I get to go do work that always brings a smile to my face. I get to see the client's I work with and laugh with them and talk with them and encourage them and try to be there for them when they are having bad days too. And I am determined to not let anything happen that will stop me from doing this work. I'm going back to being positive and upbeat now. But thank you for letting me break down a little on here.<br />
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OK, I know thats a little nuts! But they are a classic and some of my favorite movies!! I was introduced to them by my brother Peter talking about them and it made me curious! I about fell over laughing when I found out that the ring tone for his boss (who I believe was Italian) was the theme song from the movie! I wonder if she ever knew! Lol!<br />
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Anyway, my weekend has been a quiet one. Running errands, going to church and relaxing at home. :) Couldn't have asked for more this weekend!Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-23977416039802699622016-10-30T16:03:00.001-07:002016-10-30T16:03:21.726-07:00My New Normal Days 69, 70 & 71. I Made it Through!As described in a previous post, I had a rough and exhausted start to the week and so the rest of it was pretty much my thinking, "Put one foot in front of the other!". Not only was I able to do that but I got more accomplished than I had planned! Lol! Don't me ask me how other than my Guardian Angel was watching over me!<br />
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One of the other things I had to do was fill out some paperwork that asked a lot of medical questions, including a list of every day activities and wether I could do them or not. Like cook or dress myself or sit up. Things that believe it or not I had to mark as "No" three years ago. And as I looked at the list one evening after work I had to shake my head to keep my eyes open. There was a section allowing me to expand on some of my answers and I thought in my head, "I am so exhausted after my day that I struggle to keep my eyes focused. But I can honestly say that no matter how tired I am at the end of the day, I got through the day!". <br />
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I left work on Friday so tired I felt sick. But after a rest I was able to get up and feel ok again. I made it through! I don't see another week to be as rough as this one any time soon. But if it comes to it, I know I can do it. I know I can make it through.Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-864355308247645682016-10-30T15:51:00.004-07:002016-10-30T15:51:55.931-07:00My New Normal Days 67 & 68. Do Not Close Your Eyes At The Red Light!I can't believe I am using this phrase but...when I was younger...Ouch!! Yes, I am now looking back on days. Don't let this baby face fool you, I am not a young kid anymore. I am not old either. I am in that in between spot made worse by menopause and the after affects of treatment. But I digress. As I was saying, when I was younger I could drive all night, stay awake and spend the next day going strong at work. And then stay up ridiculously late that night and still go strong the next day. I can't do that anymore! Lol!<br />
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I spent a lovely but quick weekend in Michigan with my folks and due to plane delays, I didn't get back into Orlando until almost midnight. then I had to get an Uber, which proved more difficult than I had thought, and get my car from my office. I seriously considered just curling up on the white couch upstairs in the office since I had to be back there at 7 in the morning. But I got in my car and drove home and arrived around 1 am. At which point my body fell exhausted into bed and my mind refused to turn off! I couldn't fall asleep for easily an hour!<br />
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Needless to say the next day was ROUGH! Lol! I ended up with a full day which wasn't the plan. But just before I left the Friday I tucked in an early appointment for Monday! The good thing was, once I started to work with a client I woke up. I still have an adrenaline rush when I work with a client and I am focused and awake and sharp. Then I sit down again in my car and oh boy!! This is when I confirmed a lovely new reaction. Caffeine puts me to sleep!!! So as I drove from client to client I went between freezing cold AC and blaring music to calling friends and family asking them to talk! I distinctly remember at two red lights that are notoriously long thinking "I can close my eyes for just a moment! Rest them some!" Lol! I did not though and I made it back to the office. And there I had coworkers around and I perked up some more. I will admit though, the first thing I did when I got home was to lay down and not move for a while!<br />
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So, when I think I am 24 again and have all the energy in the world, I have to remind myself that in fact, I am almost 37 and dealing with all these changes that drain me completely and I have to tell myself, take it easy! Lol! And whatever you do, don't close your eyes at the red light!!Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-15988412186859136492016-10-30T15:29:00.000-07:002016-10-30T15:33:06.062-07:00My new Normal 64, 65 & 66. Fall Colors!!!This weekend I went up to visit my parents for the weekend and attend a Tea with my mom! It has become a tradition with us and we didn't want a little thing like me being on the other side of the country to stop it! Lol!<br />
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It felt good to be in cool weather without a hint of humidity and to see all the brilliant colors of the trees!! from yellow to oranges to reds to purples! There was a symphony of color mixed in with the green that was still dotting the trees and fields!<br />
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I got a chance to visit with my grandma and just walk around the farm with my mom and dad and take silly pictures like the ones I have added below! It felt so good to be back there for a couple days and just relax and rest and refocus! I got a chance to have a taste of my favorite season and it sent me back to work feeling happier :).<br />
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A selfie in the barnyard with an all white ram who is poking his nose at my glasses and face because I had stopped scratching him and he wanted me to continue! Lol!</div>
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<br />Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-5435759385843649112016-10-30T15:19:00.000-07:002016-10-30T15:19:20.462-07:00My New Normal Day 62 & 63. Something New :)I have done something small for myself that I have not done ever. I bought a brand new piece of luggage that I actually like for some trips I am taking this winter. Just short ones so it was only a carry on. Every piece of luggage I have ever gotten myself has been from Goodwill or Big Lots or Walmart. Granted, I got this one online but it is a nice piece and I feel good when I look at it! <br />
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It might seem silly but for so long in my life I have been pinching pennies and robbing Peter to pay Paul. And it isn't like I have a ton of money now. But for the first time, I was able to buy myself a piece of luggage that isn't from Goodwill and it won't fall apart within the year! Lol! I'm not rich! Far from it! But I am able to do little things for myself now and then! And that feels good!Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-26556276373512956732016-10-18T19:33:00.002-07:002016-10-18T19:33:37.425-07:00My New Normal Day 61. Finding the Balance With FoodMy whole life I have struggled with weight. But before, if I put my mind to it, I could loose weight. Slowly but steadily. The past few years I have been struggling to loose even a single pound and keep it off!!! I lost plenty of weight during chemo but I ca;;ed it fake weight loss. I could barely eat and would loose 9 pounds in just a few days! Not healthy and it always came back on as soon as I could keep down solid foods. And forget eating healthy during treatment! Very few things sounded good so whatever I could keep down I ate! And it seemed to change with each chemo! For a few weeks the only thing I could stomach were crescent roles with plane cream cheese on them!<br />
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Now, my eating habits have much improved and my exorcise has gone up and I have managed to tone some of my muscles but I haven't lost a single pound!!! I've had long talks with my doctors and they have run tests but it always seems to come down to the same thing...it is very hard to loose weight during menopause! And I truly believe that is a drastic understatement!<br />
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So, lately I have been trying to be more careful of what I eat. And I can do well for a while and then I fall and have the dreaded carbohydrates of pizza and chips! My stress food apparently! And while the stress I have been feeling is more caused by being tired..in a good way...it is still triggering that desire for everything that is bad for me! But I am determined and this morning I made a fruit smoothie for my lunch. And by the time lunch came I was starving! It was good in the moment but I freely admit, two hours later I felt like I hadn't eaten all day!! Why does food that is good for you never seem to satisfy beyond the moment???<br />
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I am going to keep trying though and see if I can find the right combination of food and exorcise and defy the stereotype of not loosing weight in menopause! Or at least I will if I would remember to bring my travel mug home with me so I can fill it with another smoothie!!!Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12815209036140019985noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7220872180574571553.post-73955058079499731592016-10-17T18:45:00.000-07:002016-10-17T18:45:32.492-07:00My New Normal Day 60. The Tax Collector!!There are so many things about Florida that just boggle my mind! People's calm acceptance of reptiles all over the place. The drivers that honestly seem to be on a mission to almost cause the most horrendous accidents and then somehow swerve out of catastrophe at the last second...for the most part. (My language has gone down hill quite a lot since driving these roads!). People thinking that I am insane for keeping my house at a barely comfortable 73 degrees (they seem to think I am trying to build an igloo indoors!). And the most recent head scratcher is the name they have for their DMV. <div>
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Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you, The Tax Collector!!</div>
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When my brother told me that was what Florida called the DMV I couldn't stop laughing! So many images were fighting for top billing in my mind!!! Biblical images of the money changers and despised and unclean tax collectors from the New Testament! A poor, muddy village in the dark ages of England with soldiers enforcing the crippling tax of the King and protecting the oily and evil tax collector (who is always quite rotund in just about every movie that involves such a scenario!). And most recently, I have had the image of a hulking wrestler taking the WWE by storm...hated and dreaded, cloaked in dark mystery, THE TAX COLLECTOR!! Mwahahaha!!</div>
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Not quite what it was actually like this afternoon as I settled in, more than a bit stressed and jumping the gun about not getting a chance to be seen, for a long wait for my number to be called in the large room which had for some reason only browns in it's color palette (broken by periodically spaced pieces of electric blue felt for the background for ID photos). I went in today and transferred my license and car registration to Florida and registered to vote. My new Florida license was handed over to me and after I winced at my cringe worthy photo on it, I took a second or two and let it sink in that I am now a Floridian. The state of rain out of a clear blue sky, lizards that fall on you without warning from trees (no, I will never get use to them!), home of Disney, NASA, beaches and infamous in history for hanging chads! I wasn't quite sure how I felt about it all and so I tucked my license into my purse and headed out with my oh so snazzy paper plates for my car,</div>
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So yes, I am still processing the fact that I am a resident of the home of Mickey, Minnie, Donald, Goofey and the whole gang. But what will forever put a smile on my face is the ridiculous images in my mind now that I can say that I have paid The Tax Collector! Lol!!!!</div>
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